05 May

Cougar love: 15 reasons young men are attracted to older women

Read more about older woman dating here.

An attraction technologist at heart, he travels the world in search of beautiful women, new ways to help men with their online dating, and the perfect single malt whiskey. Sebastian Harris is a travel enthusiast and lover of women who spent the past five years meeting and attracting women all over the world. His global dating journey eventually allowed him to meet the woman of his dreams. Now he supports and inspires men to embark on their own journey.

It’s time that men start realizing the benefits of dating older women. A lot of the time, we complain that women don’t know what they want and that they’re high maintenance. Well, why not change things up and try dating women that can appreciate some of the different things a man has to offer. “Also, they are much more experienced with life. You know this is the kind of person who’s going to tell you exactly what they want and they are more sure of themselves than the people my age or younger. Older women are much more well rounded—they know what they feel and why they feel it.

You might still be establishing your career, living in shared accommodation, or saving up to go travelling. She, on the other hand, may already be settled, financially secure, maybe even a mother. This doesn’t apply to everyone, of course.

In other words, you’re “the one”. You’re older, wiser and know exactly what you want. A casual fling? Or a serious and meaningful relationship? You find the guy that’s right for you.

• Whilst socially it may currently seem a lot more usual to see an older man with a younger woman this trend is likely to shift as women become the main household earners.
• “I’m 21, dating a woman 25 years older than me. We’ve been dating since I was 18, and I plan on proposing early next year. It’s amazing. There’s never any arguing or fights, never any jealousy. She’s emotionally mature, so there’s never any drama. If there’s something we disagree on (which I can’t even think of an example for), there’s no contention. The emotional maturity is probably one of the most attractive things. She’s more self conscious with the age difference than I am, but its not a big deal for either of us (especially after three years). All of our friends are great and no one is judgmental.
• Kanye West once warned us about gold diggers, but I don’t know if people are taking him as seriously nowadays, so this might be a good time to revisit that age-old lesson.
• She may fear you’ll leave her for a younger woman, fight you on making it more than a fling, and assume it’s only sexual.
• Also, they know that you’re in the relationship for the right reasons, rather than using him for money.

14) She’s more direct and knows what she wants

What is more, many men who like older women are saying that having sex with younger girls is incredibly dull. Immature ladies are mindlessly trying to correspond some stereotypical images, instead of sincerely enjoying a moment of intimacy. The older females don’t have that modesty, as well as, embarrassment and can explain what they prefer honestly. Have you ever experienced the situations when your date was telling you many times something about her sexual preferences and then, suddenly, you’ve figured out it wasn’t true?

The vast majority are not. It feels a bit hopeless at times and you can easily feel undesirable. Rather than trying to be an all around appealing woman, put the real you out there. Show your uniqueness, be off-beat or traditional or whoever you are in real life. Be aware that many profiles are fake, set up by scammers eager to work their way into your pocketbook.

Dating an older woman can be a fantastic experience, but don’t forget that texting is an area older women dating where you need to know what you’re doing. While you may be tempted to only text, don’t.

After 21 years in the business I can still honestly say “I’m always in love with love”. As a matchmaker it’s important for me to give you a little bit of what you WANT and a whole lot of what you NEED…that’s my secret weapon to finding you, REAL LOVE. Women who date younger men have much more competition and they are well aware of that as well. Whatever you do, don’t get caught checking out the cute younger hostess on your date with an older woman.

If you’re dating a woman who is under the age of 25, you may notice that she has less control over her emotions, can be impulsive and may not have the maturity to date without playing games. One important thing to remember, however, is that even though she is able to take care of herself financially, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be paying for the first three dates.